It's clear that two million people living in one small area of the planet have nothing to fear from three blokes living somewhere else on the same planet.

And the women don't--fear, that is. But the men are carrying the cultural equivalent of the black death, and that needs to be addressed.

He has only two options - fight, or drink. Either way he's dead in the next few minutes.

This could be his motivation, given the bare facts of the situation, but it's not the motivation given in the text. The motivation given in the text is that he realises he's carrying the black death.

That's the central point from which all our disagreements flow; see also Geneva's analysis of the story as about power imbalance elsethread. You and Dan are reading it far too literally, I think--taking for too much about the narrator's perceptions of the women's society at face value. The women are not stereotypes; he sees them as stereotypes, because that's what he's been conditioned to do.

The fact that the men have to be drugged into acting reprehensibly is, for me, the deciding factor

That's a 'Billly' situation, and like 'Billy' you can't resolve it either way. "It wasn't something in you, Wesley. It was something done to you."